My family has had a substantial amount of tragedy this year outside of all of the political and social events.
I have lost my temper and not communicated this best with my family for which I take responsibility and am making it a priority to communicate from love moving forward.
My sisters and brother in law are asking we all have covid tests before the holidays. I said “no problem I’ll take one, but I don’t feel comfortable having my two year old son take one.”
I do not want to take one, I’m very busy trying to work, take care of myself, my home and my child, but I will. I feel I am being reasonable, but I am so afraid this will not end well.
My family tried this for Thanksgiving. We said fuck it and had our own dinner with the Lions of the family.
If they aren't shopping for a Lamborghini with a Powerball ticket that has a 0.01% chance if winning...
Then getting tested for a virus with a 99.99% survival rate seems just as absurd.
I pulled put the smoker and we had Thanksgiving. And at the end of the day they ended up at my house anyway.
You can't force your family to be brave.. you just have to do it for them. People are fucking stupid and want to be told what to do.
Courage is more contagious than the kung flu.
Can I be in your family?
Thanks, I agree, the issue is I am outnumbered. I am the only "brave" one, everyone else in my family thinks i'm irresponsible and reckless. :/
They're are some other family dynamics at play. I am the least financially stable of my siblings. I make good money now, but for a long time it was touch and go, and I don't own property and they do. So this just adds to them thinking i am wrong.
I have charlatans in my family as well.
My cousin is a Democrat politician... (yeah we aren't close)
I dropped out of law school to do circus arts in Las Vegas when I was younger (I'm 40) I still see my family... but they look down on me for not following them into law.
I did what I wanted to and I'm happy. I still love them.. but fuck em.
Got to see 52 countries and 180 cities in the USA... when I'm about to die.. ill be thinking about that... not their opinions. Goodluck and Merry Christmas.
Thank you, really thank you. I sincerely appreciate it. I studied art, while my siblings studied more responsible fields. Have a nice christmas as well. My father lives in Las Vegas, I dont speak to him, but when I did I visted him a few times and also the red mountains around there. Really beautiful. :)
I really don't see the point of testing. Take your temperature and if you're normal and feel healthy that should be enough. They say asymptomatic spread is rare, but because it's possible everyone freaks out and considers it the most common way for COVID to spread. Even if you catch it, you're chances of adverse effects are low.
If you have any links on the asymptomatic spread, I would appreciate it. Of course, when I google it, I get "ASYMPTOMATIC PEOPLE SPREAD COVID ALL THE TIME!!!!"
I'm sure that's all they are seeing as well :/
good luck convincing sheep tho
Just lie and say you took one.
This is the worst of all moves.
I didn't say it was good advice, it's merely advice.
yes, oh and also, I didnt reply above, but do you think people who are asking for a test would believe just my word?!?!
If they had any trust, there would not be a request for a test.
Or the best...
Yeah, when I read this I thought to myself if you have siblings. It's funny though, my siblings are better at lying than me, they have successfully done it. I honestly have never. Maybe I'm messed up mentally, but I cannot lie if I KNOW its a lie, only if I am able to convince myself that it is true can I do it, I guess that doesn't make sense. Oh well! :D
**If they had any trust, and would believe my word, there would not be a request for a test! :D
Just take it and let it go. Obviously, your 2 year-old shouldn't be tested, because taking the samples is a buit painful and, according to the latest research, kids do not spread covid as much as it was thought before.
However, I wonder if your relatives are taking the test too, or just forcing you to be tested because you're going to their place.
I don't get wtf is wrong with people. I am as scared of Covid as anyone else, but I am not going to let it be an obstacle to spend these days with my loved ones.
At home, we will be cebrating together (around 6 ppl) and the only "measure" we will be taking is keeping one of our windows open. If there is fresh air coming in, there should be no problem.
I agree I said I would take it but I think they are going to force the issue of my two year old taking it. That’s how far they are gone. They don’t believe that kids don’t spread covid because we can’t know if they spread it because they are almost always asymptomatic. They think my 2 year old should be wearing a mask in public. HELP! .....they think kids should be wearing masks if playing on a playground together ....they think people should wear masks outside in parks...HELP!
this is ridiculous, in no country 2-year-olds are forced t wear a mask. Your fam needs to get an effing grip.
Fuck that. I don’t participate in others delusions - even if it’s my own family. You can be polite and chill and still not participate in it.
I agree, I am actually a big therapy/mindfullness/what would pema chodron do freak (totally not gavin approved) but I try to state the facts of a situation when I am having a hard time.
The facts are: I am being asked to do something to participate with family. I am not asking anyone to do anything to participate. On this alone they are wrong, however I think they would phrase it as I am asking them to participate in a risky situation. :/
Fuck them. Tell them you took the test and are positive.
good comments on here, yeah i thought of that, like what would they do if i were positive?!!? well my one sibling is thinking of not coming simply because they only give tests if you have symptoms where we are apparently, so i guess that tells you what im dealing with :/
Finally were you able to celebrate Christmas with fam and friends?
Thanks so much for asking. I thought about posting a follow up because there is a good lesson.
I and my (separated) husband and stepson all got tested as asked. I stood my ground about not getting my toddler tested.
I stood my ground and did not bend, even though my siblings badgered my mom that my toddler should be tested. In addition, my not bending, threatened my living situation during the holidays! (I have not mentioned that I live with my senior mom because it's just a whole other bag of dicks. Even though she depends on me, it makes it harder for me to just tell everyone to eff off)
Here is the important lesson that was confirmed to me, I am sure everyone on this board knows as well: WHEN YOU BEND IT IS NEVER ENOUGH.
I, my husband, stepson, and toddler getting a test became not enough and it became my toddler should be wearing a mask in public, meaning wearing one in daycare as well. Then it became we all should be wearing one while we are celebrating together.
So, my siblings decided not to come, even though I and my husband jumped through their hoops. I am proud of myself for not bending because it will never be enough. But hayzeus, I am so sad.
I actually am glad they made the decision to take care of their own health instead of demanding things of others, I just wish this was the first path taken.
My mother said they did not bring up me not wanting to comply as to why they did not come, but I am sure that my not complying will be brought up as the reason Christmas was ruined this year in the future. I'm trying my best.
Having a toddler tested is ridiculous. Unless there are clear symptons, no PCRs are done on children. Not even international airports request PCRs from kids under 5. Your family is being ridiculous, period.
We celebrated 6 people at home. I was the only one that had a PCR done because I had a bad cough. Even the doctor knew the results were going to be negative, but preferred to rule it out anyways.
Tomorrow, there will be 8 of us at home. We are all feeling well and will keep the windows slightly open because most of my relatives are heavy smokers.
I am sorry for your mom, because I am sure she wants to spend the holidays with her children, but your relatives are just being incredibly ridiculous and it is only their fault you didnt get to enjoy Christmas together.
I'm interested in this PCR, I don't know what it is. All I know is that when I was stressed I called a family member who is a doctor and he said that quote "no one will test a 2 year old" because of something about their immune system not being developed.
Then, my mom calls the testing place and they tell her they test as young as 3 months. Clown.World. :/