My family has had a substantial amount of tragedy this year outside of all of the political and social events.
I have lost my temper and not communicated this best with my family for which I take responsibility and am making it a priority to communicate from love moving forward.
My sisters and brother in law are asking we all have covid tests before the holidays. I said “no problem I’ll take one, but I don’t feel comfortable having my two year old son take one.”
I do not want to take one, I’m very busy trying to work, take care of myself, my home and my child, but I will. I feel I am being reasonable, but I am so afraid this will not end well.
I agree, I am actually a big therapy/mindfullness/what would pema chodron do freak (totally not gavin approved) but I try to state the facts of a situation when I am having a hard time.
The facts are: I am being asked to do something to participate with family. I am not asking anyone to do anything to participate. On this alone they are wrong, however I think they would phrase it as I am asking them to participate in a risky situation. :/
Fuck them. Tell them you took the test and are positive.
good comments on here, yeah i thought of that, like what would they do if i were positive?!!? well my one sibling is thinking of not coming simply because they only give tests if you have symptoms where we are apparently, so i guess that tells you what im dealing with :/
Finally were you able to celebrate Christmas with fam and friends?
Thanks so much for asking. I thought about posting a follow up because there is a good lesson.
I and my (separated) husband and stepson all got tested as asked. I stood my ground about not getting my toddler tested.
I stood my ground and did not bend, even though my siblings badgered my mom that my toddler should be tested. In addition, my not bending, threatened my living situation during the holidays! (I have not mentioned that I live with my senior mom because it's just a whole other bag of dicks. Even though she depends on me, it makes it harder for me to just tell everyone to eff off)
Here is the important lesson that was confirmed to me, I am sure everyone on this board knows as well: WHEN YOU BEND IT IS NEVER ENOUGH.
I, my husband, stepson, and toddler getting a test became not enough and it became my toddler should be wearing a mask in public, meaning wearing one in daycare as well. Then it became we all should be wearing one while we are celebrating together.
So, my siblings decided not to come, even though I and my husband jumped through their hoops. I am proud of myself for not bending because it will never be enough. But hayzeus, I am so sad.
I actually am glad they made the decision to take care of their own health instead of demanding things of others, I just wish this was the first path taken.
My mother said they did not bring up me not wanting to comply as to why they did not come, but I am sure that my not complying will be brought up as the reason Christmas was ruined this year in the future. I'm trying my best.