A 36 year old (Italian) woman wants me to help her have a child. She says she wants to raise it by herself (no man), but she lives near her family who can help her if she needs it.
a) Im personable now, but I was an absolute monster as a child (she doesnt know this, she thinks ive always been normal)
b) I didnt have a dad growing up and I think it would have helped a lot, I dont know if I want a child to be raised by a single mum
c) she wants to bang to make the child, IDK if its against my faith to do so. I dont consider this to be a religious issue though, but maybe I dont want to
Is it better for the child to live without a Father than to never exist at all?
Thanks Lads
Not having a child in the first place is totally different from abortion. There is no moral issue with not having a child. There are billions of potential children laying around in crusty socks as we speak. Bringing a child into the world to be raised by a single mom is a bad idea for the kid and it's a bad idea for you as it leaves you legally vulnerable and open to manipulation by this woman who could use the child as a bargaining chip to get God knows what out of you. It's not paranoid to think this, I've seen it happen many times. Get yourself a wife and have kids with her instead. She'll find another guy dumb enough to give her what she wants or she'll resort to lying about being on the pill and fucking random dudes from the bar. Think of it this way, there are only two ways this can go. 1. Everything works out and she gets to have a kid and you get nothing out of it. You won't even get to spend time with your own kid which will probably hurt at least on some level. 2. It's the biggest mistake you ever made and it ruins your life for thed next 18 years. A simple risk/reward analysis shows this is a complete fool's errand.
"There is no moral issue with not having a child."
I get it but i argue for meat by saying 'sure theyre raised to be killed but isnt that better than never living to begin with?' Im saying Id rather be raised by a mother who loves me and find a male role-model somewhere than not live at all.
There are risks but they can be largely mitigated, she wants a decent guy for the donor. my stats are pretty good imo,